Impressions matter

I attended an 8 hours long workshop on the techniques and skills required to ace an interview. haha. So along the way, it somehow turned into a singles relationship crashcourse. It made alot of sense. so, you draw a triangle with A, C, and R.

A- Affinity
Which essentially means yuan fen in chinese. And he said that affinity can be created. How so? Appreciate, also another A word comes into play. If you put in the effort to be sincere and appreciate people, then it'll be easy to gain some affinity, if that's even possible. Because people are made to think of him/herself as the most important part of their lives, which is true. But everyone wants to have people hear them out. So, if you become the listener, just keep quiet and let the other person be the center of your whole universe for that good few minutes, you've managed to be a friend. All in all, under this segment, it means not to judge people, and be nice to everybody, cause you'll never know what may come out of it. and people like to be appreciated.:)

R- Reality
Reality.. is like a train.
which requires a common platform in order to meet. or something like that. see, if you and another person dont have a common platform, then you'll just be getting off at different stops right? then, there'll be no reality to the conversation or even the relationship for that matter. So, common platform means similarities. In hobbies, music, wadever. Always try to look for something to talk about. The best thing if in doubt, is to always ask about studying, coz that's wad all singaporeans do. and food? hahaha.

C- Communication

I learnt this the hard way. Hmm, i guess everyone kind of know what they expect and are expected to portray to people in terms of communication. Its like " i know, i konw, must be a good listener." but, to putting it into practice requires much more then just talk. It requires putting down ALOT of things. like ego, and emotions. When you're quiet, you cant be angry or sad or happy. you're just doing nothing. i mean if your facial expressions so powerful then can la. haha. Then, there's understanding. Listening doesnt translate to understanding. It means internalizing and integrating whatever that's going through your head and picking out things that are essential. So, you actually know what they are talking about. You dun wanna get caught spacing off when someone's having an emotional fit about something and you cant remember the details. If that happens, you've just lost a billion of points in that friendship. Lastly, i believe that good communication requires honesty. Yes. be honest to be trusted. And not telling the whole truth isnt honesty as well. Can you imagine when you've known somebody for such a long time, then only when something drastic happens that you find out something about that person? i mean, we cant really help it at times, but i guess also that's a way of learning about others. Cant really expect everyone you meet to pour out their guts within such a small period of time.

Wow, I just wrote a whole GP essay on my favourite category. :) i hope something like this comes out for GP the following monday.

And i really wanna watch Kungfu panda. Anybody?

Salmon, signing out.